Integrative Therapy — An Introduction

Our parts develop as we grow, and most are supportive and helpful – for example, driving, walking or reading these words. We have learned how to do things over the years, and handed the running of them over to our subconscious “parts” in the form of neural pathways. This enables us to drive along the motorway at seventy miles an hour, while carrying out other quite complicated mental activities that have nothing to do with driving. At the same time, our subconscious is carrying out manoeuvres – indicating, checking the mirror, accelerating etc.

Other parts develop when we learn in response to what we perceive as threats. Quite often, we will not be aware of exactly when these parts develop, because more likely than not, it happens in childhood – when events overwhelm us and we were unable to self-regulate. No one was there, at that exact moment, to say “it’s alright, it’s not your fault, it’s going to be alright”. An adult could have been there, but with a very different message altogether. So, when we become overwhelmed as children, the body knows and the mind understands that we are vulnerable, and evolutionary forces necessitate that such vulnerability is to be guarded against. We may develop an anxious part that protects us by, for example, staying always on guard.

Subconsciously, we learn to do many things in our childhood to protect us and to maintain the attachment to our families. These may become chronic, if the threat remains, perceived or otherwise. In adulthood, they may become anxiety, depression, people-pleasing or workaholism. They are proactive, they help you to control and not “lose it”, to not let that overwhelmed child flood the system and leave you vulnerable again. Of course, when we become teenagers our priorities change, we start to make preparations to leave the care-givers, and find our own way. We discover sex and drugs and rock and roll, and we find that all those feelings of anxiety, the shame, the pain we’ve lived with, can all just fade away…

It doesn’t last of course, but it sure looked, felt and tasted good while it did! And this “reactive” protection helps us by taking our emotional pain from our awareness, distracting us. This only really becomes a problem when a critical “part” takes a “dislike” to this “distraction”. This may be a voice in your head railing against you for being hungover. It may be a belief you have kept from your parents or your culture, telling you that you are bad if you behave like this. You may stop for a while, but as soon as the inner child is triggered and threatens to overwhelm you, you will need to protect yourself – work harder, watch porn, go shopping, have a drink and a smoke. Then, the polarised judgements start again, but the thing is, they won’t affect the drinking part, or the smoking part, or the working part; they’re all puffed up and self-righteous – “I have to earn this money, or else…”, “I deserve this drink…” – this discord, shame and judgement in the system triggers the “younger” part, so you have to go again with whatever you have in your protective armoury: another drink, another smoke, harder work etc.

The good news is, there is something you can do to break this viscous cycle, and it’s something I can help you with…

“I had a really sudden drop of my emotions after a small school reunion. Unfortunately it brought up some very old hidden childhood memories that I had buried and they resurfaced so suddenly that I was in some sort of shock or maybe a form of PTSD.

I had a couple of months consultation with Guy. A mixture of deep breathing work and a lot of focus work on childhood memories. Things came up that I had buried so deep but Guy got me to compartmentalise these memories and to move on from them.

I found his techniques to be very effective. My thoughts and sleep patterns returned to normal and my fears have completely diminished. I am very grateful for Guy’s help, I feel I have gone a long way to banishing many demons from my past.

Thank you, Guy.”

Tony Grossi

Integrative Therapy — How It Works

Building on the trust and understanding that develops between us, and using my knowledge and experience of a variety of modalities, I help my clients with the most affective and timely course of therapy to bring about transformational change.

Integrative Therapy — How It Works

Building on the trust and understanding that develops between us, and using my knowledge and experience of a variety of modalities, I help my clients with the most affective and timely course of therapy to bring about transformational change.

Guy had a tremendous ability to really get into and understand my world and my particular challenges as an opera singer and performer. The sessions have proven to be so helpful and the benefits have stayed with me. I am much more relaxed when performing now  and am able to be in the moment and deliver with greater confidence in my own ability.

– Neal Cooper, Opera Singer –

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Guy had a tremendous ability to really get into and understand my world and my particular challenges as an opera singer and performer. The sessions have proven to be so helpful and the benefits have stayed with me. I am much more relaxed when performing now  and am able to be in the moment and deliver with greater confidence in my own ability.

– Neal Cooper, Opera Singer –

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"I have struggled with IBS symptoms for several years and explored lots of options to try to manage them. Some have helped but it still had a huge impact on my day to day life. A year of pandemic had increased stress and anxiety and this was making my symptoms worse, so after a personal recommendation, I made enquiries and then booked a course of treatment with Guy which was carried out over Zoom. I found him to be very professional, calming and kind with a lovely energy; an excellent listener and with a knack of asking exactly the right questions to explore issues with me. He had a good understanding of IBS and the links of gut to brain as well as the impact of stress and anxiety on the gut which was very reassuring. We worked on different areas in each session; some addressed the gut and digestive tract directly, others on more general stresses. Each one was so helpful and after the hypnosis I would feel amazing – very calm and grounded. He sent me recordings of the hypnosis sessions so that I could replay and practice regularly and build on the progress from the sessions. It has really helped me with my IBS and general well-being and I could not recommend Guy more highly."

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"Guy had a tremendous ability to really get into and understand my world and my particular challenges as an opera singer and performer. The sessions have proven to be so helpful and the benefits have stayed with me. I am much more relaxed when performing now  and am able to be in the moment and deliver with greater confidence in my own ability."

– Neal Cooper, Opera Singer –

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"It’s been 4 months since I came to see you to stop smoking and I am happy to report that I’ve not had one and still have the remainder of a packet in my glove compartment not touched. Just to say thank you for all your help."

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"Guy has helped me with a number of techniques and coping strategies to deal with stressful events and anxiety. These include mirroring hands, self-hypnosis & mindfulness which I can use myself when needed. Using hypnotherapy sessions and retraining my thought process, Guy has the ability to tap in to what might be at the root of the problem, to dig deeper and find a lasting solution. Guy is very intuitive and professional but with a relaxed approach. He has a very calming voice and is someone who can really put you at ease. I highly recommend him if you need a bit of help!"

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"Guy really helped me with some deep old trauma which was manifesting itself in acute pain (not very cute at all!). He worked very sensitively and I felt safe at all times. It has definitely helped just from one session. I would definitely recommend working with Guy, he is professional, kind and knows his stuff."

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"I have been wanting to try hypnotherapy for my weight loss for several years, but didn't want to pick just anyone. Guy was recommended to me by another friend who was seeing great results. I booked a callback, and Guy took the time to explain his process and what he does, and gain a few facts about me. Once I was happy to book, my first session was 2 hours.

This is actually proving to be life changing. I've been able to lose the compulsiveness to over-eat by understanding why I was doing it. I've had 4 sessions so far, and also concentrated on stress and anxiety during a house move where I'd normally have reached for the food. I felt very comfortable in the room and at ease with Guy. This has been a great experience for me and I wholeheartedly recommend!"

– Tina Trevett –

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"I cannot thank guy enough for what he has done for me in such a short time it’s unbelievable. I’ve suffered with major depression and anxiety for most my life with things that happened to me in my past and not knowing how to deal with it. I’ve had a few counsellors in my time but no one worked for me, I was just wasting money. I heard about hypnotherapy and came across Guy. This man has literally saved my life I can honestly say I feel alive for the first time in years it’s so hard to explain I still can’t believe the way I feel. Guy is such a nice bloke he treats you like a friend not just a patient very genuine and makes you feel right at home and comfortable."

– Darren –

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"When I was writing my book, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read, I would wake up at 5:30 or six every morning because I was full of ideas about what I needed to write and anxious to get them down. Unfortunately even after I finished the book and was no longer anxious I still had this habit of waking up far too early. I was beginning to feel tired all the time. I told Guy about this and he did a technique with me that he called ‘mirroring hands’. I don’t know how he did it but somehow with some sort of guided visualisation I was imagining the problem in one of my hands and it sort of detached it from me, whether he mirrored my movements with his own hands, I don’t know as I had shut my eyes. I remember at one point the hand that had the problem had to drop. And I had difficulty in moving the other hand until Guy said that it could move on its own. ANYWAY, the next morning I slept until 8.00am. I think Guy enabled me to overcome some inner message that had got stuck about the need to wake up too early. Wow. He has such a lovely manner that you can’t help but feel better after seeing him."

– Philippa Perry –

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"It was great working with Guy. We started off working on my fear of heights which he was able to sort out in one visit. After that he then helped me sort out some other problems I had with a recent separation. 5/5"

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